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Emotional recovery. What does it mean?
Brad Smith • Jul 10, 2019
To be in emotional recovery means that you are no longer addicted to a set of feelings that you attach to past events in your life. It means that you can separate your feelings from the events that have shaped them.
Misconceptions about Emotional Recovery - Most people think that emotional recovery means “free, happy, and joyous”. It is widely used in the self-help literature and people love this definition. Because they believe that if they take up a good program, they will become happy while following it.
Implications of these misconceptions
But this definition puts those people who are going through emotional recovery in a tough spot. For instance, if a person is having a hard time what does it say about a person's emotional recovery? What if they are anxious, angry, afraid, sad, or confused? Does this imply that the person is not emotionally recovering?
What emotional recovery is actually about?
Emotional recovery is less related to the state of one's feelings (bad or good) and it is more related to the general ability to feel one's feeling. Emotional recovery doesn't promise to achieve materialistic things or to be “free, happy, and joyous” all the time. But it allows you to be present in the moment whatever it looks like. This is associated with what you are experiencing at various instants. And if you can be present to all of your feelings without allowing any particular one of them to define you.
Emotional recovery
will allow you to tolerate your feelings and behave in an appropriate manner regardless of what you might be feeling. This means that you won’t have to beat yourself up or shut down your feelings if you face challenging circumstances.
Spiritual Bypass
Most people try to segregate their bad feelings and then try to numb them by praying, meditation, and other such techniques. These things are good but they are just distracting you from your feelings. And this experience is called a spiritual bypass.
Spiritual bypass is defined as “sidestepping emotional, personal, and un-finished business by using spiritual practices and ideas to belittle feelings, development tasks, and basic needs as a quest for enlightenment”. Spiritual bypass is when a person presents a false spiritual self which suppresses the various aspects of that person’s true self. Spiritual bypass is based on strengthening one’s defenses rather than one’s humility. Spiritual bypass involves arriving rather than being, grasping rather than gratitude, and avoiding rather than accepting.
Hurdles in Emotional Recovery
Most people while going through emotional recovery don’t want to acknowledge that they are scared, angry, and ashamed. Because that might involve them having to face these things and feel them, and they are simply not ready for that.
Emotional recovery should instead be about facing your traumas and accepting that you are in pain. Only then you can heal and recover your emotional state. You cannot heal a physical wound if you don’t even recognize it, the same goes for emotions and feelings. If you fail to recognize why you are emotionally hurt then you will never be able to successfully complete emotional recovery.
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If you are struggling with emotional recovery and need someone to guide you through this process then you should contact Joe Dibianca. He specializes in helping those who need emotional support and want to take their life back. Hoping to hear from you soon.
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