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What’s Standing In Your Way?
Brad Smith • May 22, 2019
Circumstances don’t just happen. Quite often, they are the result of the opinion we have of ourselves. Our thoughts have much more influence on our success in life that we are aware of. They drive our actions and emotions.
Oftentimes, we are our own greatest obstacles. By focusing on the negative things instead of the positive things in life, we become blind to what really matters.
Maybe the hardest part of letting go is trusting that there is more to come. Patience is key in this part of life. Whenever we put in the work to let go of what’s not serving us, often we will find something even more wonderful.
Reasons Why We Get In Our Own Way
Conditioning. The conditioned response is the learned response to the previously neutral stimulus.
Self Doubt. When we put ourselves into question and let nagging self-doubt get under our skin, we are sabotaging our happiness.
Comparing. When matching ourselves against others constantly, we run the risk of harming our wellbeing. Comparison always includes judging.
Holding on to the past. We tend to either idealize the past as being “the good old times” or we blame it for the way our life turned out. No matter what we do, we can’t change it.
Perfectionism. If we all waited for achieving perfection, no work would ever get done. We have to stop and trust that we are good enough.
Fear of the unknown. Life means surprises. Many people dream of shifting their life but are too busy trying to figure out the safest way to do so. Change is only possible if we are not afraid of what might be coming.
Frustration. Often frustration is mostly a result of disappointment, anger and hurt that hasn’t been expressed.
Fear of failure. If we believe that we can’t make it, we give up before we even have taken the first step.
Tips For Letting Go Of What No Longer Serves You
Notice Activities and behaviors that make you feel good. The real key to creating good habits lies in taking notice of how good you feel when you do something or behave in a particular way. Don’t ignore your resistance, but be sure to place your awareness on the good.
Journal about both the good and the bad. At the beginning of your day, ideally, first thing in the morning, take some time to journal about the person you want to be.
Visualize yourself growing from embracing the good. Simply close your eyes and picture what your life will be like if you kept doing all those good activities and kept embodying all those good behaviors weeks, months, and years from now.
Practice self-compassion when you slip up. Be kind to yourself when you fall back into your old ways. Simply take notice of what you’re doing, forgive yourself, and do your best to act or behave positively in the present.
Awareness. Awareness alone is enough to motivate you to make the choice to stop doing it—because awareness shows you how harmful or unproductive it really is.
Be honest. An important part of the waking up process involves getting really honest with yourself about how you feel. Many of us have been taught to suppress our feelings so that we can get through the day-to-day grind of our lives.
The Takeaway
When we hold on to these things that we think we need, we let go of the trust and faith that we are always supported. It is natural for things to come in and out of our lives, and the lesson is to trust when it’s time to let some things go.
Letting of what no longer serves you requires commitment. One day at a time you will form new feelings and emotions that will empower you. You deserve to let go!
Are you ready for the life you deserve? Book a free consult now!
Oftentimes, we are our own greatest obstacles. By focusing on the negative things instead of the positive things in life, we become blind to what really matters.
Maybe the hardest part of letting go is trusting that there is more to come. Patience is key in this part of life. Whenever we put in the work to let go of what’s not serving us, often we will find something even more wonderful.
Reasons Why We Get In Our Own Way
Conditioning. The conditioned response is the learned response to the previously neutral stimulus.
Self Doubt. When we put ourselves into question and let nagging self-doubt get under our skin, we are sabotaging our happiness.
Comparing. When matching ourselves against others constantly, we run the risk of harming our wellbeing. Comparison always includes judging.
Holding on to the past. We tend to either idealize the past as being “the good old times” or we blame it for the way our life turned out. No matter what we do, we can’t change it.
Perfectionism. If we all waited for achieving perfection, no work would ever get done. We have to stop and trust that we are good enough.
Fear of the unknown. Life means surprises. Many people dream of shifting their life but are too busy trying to figure out the safest way to do so. Change is only possible if we are not afraid of what might be coming.
Frustration. Often frustration is mostly a result of disappointment, anger and hurt that hasn’t been expressed.
Fear of failure. If we believe that we can’t make it, we give up before we even have taken the first step.
Tips For Letting Go Of What No Longer Serves You
Notice Activities and behaviors that make you feel good. The real key to creating good habits lies in taking notice of how good you feel when you do something or behave in a particular way. Don’t ignore your resistance, but be sure to place your awareness on the good.
Journal about both the good and the bad. At the beginning of your day, ideally, first thing in the morning, take some time to journal about the person you want to be.
Visualize yourself growing from embracing the good. Simply close your eyes and picture what your life will be like if you kept doing all those good activities and kept embodying all those good behaviors weeks, months, and years from now.
Practice self-compassion when you slip up. Be kind to yourself when you fall back into your old ways. Simply take notice of what you’re doing, forgive yourself, and do your best to act or behave positively in the present.
Awareness. Awareness alone is enough to motivate you to make the choice to stop doing it—because awareness shows you how harmful or unproductive it really is.
Be honest. An important part of the waking up process involves getting really honest with yourself about how you feel. Many of us have been taught to suppress our feelings so that we can get through the day-to-day grind of our lives.
The Takeaway
When we hold on to these things that we think we need, we let go of the trust and faith that we are always supported. It is natural for things to come in and out of our lives, and the lesson is to trust when it’s time to let some things go.
Letting of what no longer serves you requires commitment. One day at a time you will form new feelings and emotions that will empower you. You deserve to let go!
Are you ready for the life you deserve? Book a free consult now!
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